Step 1 of 4

Travel Compatibility Matrix

Where are we similar or different?

What it is

The Matrix is every traveler's position on all 12 dimensions, laid side by side. It's not a score. It's the raw material — the thing the other three frameworks read.

How it works

Each dimension is a 1–5 scale. Budget: 1 is "hostel and street food," 5 is "I'm not thinking about it." Pace: 1 is "one thing a day," 5 is "we can sleep when we're home."

For every pair of travelers, the distance between their answers is the gap on that dimension.

  • 0–1 apart: aligned. You'll barely notice it.
  • 2 apart: a real gap. Worth a conversation.
  • 3+ apart: a split. Someone is going to give something up.

The group readout is a count, not a verdict: aligned on 7, gapped on 3, split on 2. Two groups can have the same count and very different trips — which is exactly why this isn't the score.

The worked example

The Lisbon group

Aligned on Food, Culture, Comfort, Adventure, Alone Time, Flexibility, Conflict. Gapped on Pace and Planning. Split on Budget (Dev is a 5, Priya is a 2) and Rhythms (Jordan is up at 6, Cole isn't functional before 10).

Nothing alarming yet. Most groups look like this. The question is what those four differences actually mean — which is Step 2.

What it doesn't see

People answer as who they wish they were. "I'm easy" is the most common answer and the least reliable one. The Matrix trusts your self-report; your friends might not.

Next → Expectation Gap: which of these are different trips in disguise?

Every framework on this site is free. The diagnosis — which of your travelers differ, where, and what to say before the deposit — is the report.